“When we question openly, our spiritual practice becomes a living experience, without dogma or fixed ideas.”
The path begins with an investigation of the unreliability of things. Sometimes when we contemplate impermanence and the unreliability of things we feel afraid or insecure.
If we think about thoughts (the Abhidharma explains thoughts in interesting ways), we see that thoughts are not direct experiences…they are conclusions we reach about experiences.
I think you are asking a question about how to work with a child with special needs and also just how to organize your own situation to support formal practice. This is an important question.
Questions and responses make dharma lively. Elizabeth will respond on her blog. ASK