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What Happens When We Fall in Love?

I notice when I fall in love – which happens all the time! – I feel appreciation for and openness toward that being. The feeling of being in love, to me, means that I haven’t decided who someone is or what I want them to be.
  • Question: what happens when people fall in love?
    Response:
    Dear Rudolf,

    I’m not sure if this means “how” do we fall in love…or what happens after we fall in love…or what makes it possible for us to fall in love. But I love the question!

    I notice when I fall in love – which happens all the time! – I feel appreciation for and openness toward that being. The feeling of being in love to me, means that I haven’t decided who someone is or what I want them to be.

    In romantic relationships we usually start off with this sense of openness, but then this feeling of fullness overwhelms us and we either want to capture or hold on to the other person or we begin to see their “faults” and pull away.

    I actually think this is an important turning point in a relationship because this is the point where instead of “objectifying” the other person, we have to include who they are all in their complexity and fullness. No one is one way. We are not one-dimensional. As living beings we “open dimensional.” There is no limit to who we are – we are always a work in progress and we change with our world.

    When we can love in this way, we can fall in love all the time. There is so much to appreciate in this world. Falling in love doesn’t have to be limited to people. We can fall in love with everyone around us, with animals, with life in general. In this way the world becomes very rich.

    Happy Valentine’s Day.

    Elizabeth



     
     

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